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True Love Doesn’t Need Fifty Shades of Gray (Weekend Column for the AJC)

February 24, 2015 by Patricia

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AJC 02.23.15 50 Shades 001The frenzy is on. Hollywood has released the much-anticipated movie version of the international best-selling book “Fifty Shades of Grey.” I was visiting my husband’s family last weekend when our niece told me that the movie was sold out for all showings on Saturday, Valentine’s Day. It certainly was a strategic release date for the producers. In my humble opinion, it couldn’t be a sadder picture of what many people out there have decided to call love. On the day when Americans chose to celebrate love, couples and singles, young and old, rush to support a movie that encourages unleashed lust as the normal status quo.

Many years ago I heard someone say that they were raised to believe that there were no gray areas as far as God was concerned. This person proceeded to tell me that she didn’t believe in that anymore. I remember how uncomfortable I felt. I was a young Christian, having converted a little less than four years before, and yet that statement bothered me greatly. As far as I knew at that point in my life as a believer, there were no gray areas when it comes to God’s word. Right is right … and wrong is wrong. This happened over 15 years ago and, since then, my knowledge of Scripture and the ways of God have increased significantly. The closer I get to God the more I am convinced: As far as his ways and his plan for my life are concerned, I don’t see any gray areas at all.

Love and the way we express it toward other human beings is not an exception.

I’m not sure about other religion’s holy books, but I know what my Bible says. There are no fifty shades of gray when it comes to love. Or sex. For us – Christians, for example – we believe that our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit. Just as we should not do as the enemies of God did in the Old Testament, entering the holy of holies and defiling the sacred places of the Most High, we should not allow our lust to degrade our bodies.

I have not watched the movie or read the book. I read enough summaries and reviews to decide I had no interest in wasting my precious time doing so. My marriage is a happy one – in all aspects. I’m certainly not judging anyone who has made bad sexual decisions in their lives. However, if you are a believer and you read his word, it won’t take you long to realize that there are no gray areas when it comes to our sexuality. Yes, there are very spicy stories in the Bible, but God never labels any of those as another shade of gray. He calls them what they are: Sin. Darkness.

I think the frenzy over “Fifty Shades of Grey” just inspired me to start writing another book. I might call it “Fifty Shades of Black and White.” I know I won’t sell 11 million copies worldwide. It’s OK. I’m not worried about being popular. I just know that love is not gray. The Bible can back me up on this concept, from Genesis to Revelation. I can follow this belief and have a fruitful, joyful life. I don’t need fifty shades of gray areas to feel complete.

Patricia Holbrook is a Christian author and national conference speaker. Her first book, “12 Inches – Bridging the Gap between How You Feel and What You Know About God,” will be available in stores nationwide this summer. Visit her blog to read her devotionals atwww.soaringwithhim.com or email her at pholbrook@soaringwithhim.com

 

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About Patricia

Patricia Holbrook is the President of Soaring with Him Ministries, author, columnist, blogger, wife and mom. Her passion is to encourage her audience to "soar above life's circumstances" by the power of God's Word and the Holy Spirit's guidance. She writes about making beauty out of brokenness, trusting God in the dark, the blessings of obedience and her love for the Savior. Among other places, you can find her writing weekly on her blog, www.soaringwithHim.com. on her weekend column for the Atlanta Journal Constitution www.ajc.com, on iDisciple and websites such as LifeLetter Cafe, among others. Patricia is also a national and international speaker for women's events and is currently attending Covington Seminary, where she is enrolled in their Master’s program in Bible Studies.

Comments

  1. Paula Stack says

    February 24, 2015 at 9:19 pm

    No confusion here! Those fifty shades are colored with the crayons of sin, shame, and guilt. God, The Master Artist, colors us whiter than snow with my favorite colors: forgiveness and “Perfect Love”!

    May you and your ministry continue to prosper!

    • Patricia says

      February 25, 2015 at 1:23 am

      Thank you, Paula! God bless you!

  2. Susan Kennedy says

    February 25, 2015 at 1:37 am

    Love this. Thank you!

  3. bakso says

    February 26, 2015 at 2:56 am

    Very nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and wished to mention that
    I have really loved surfing around your blog posts. After all I will be subscribing for your rss feed and I’m hoping you write once more soon!

    • Patricia says

      February 26, 2015 at 1:57 pm

      Thank you!

  4. Walt says

    February 26, 2015 at 12:04 pm

    Great article Patricia, God has made it very simple for us, no gray areas, it is either right and good, of God, or wrong and evil, of Satan and the choices of who we will serve and believe are ours. May God continue to use you mightily to reinforce the truth of His word and put your followers in His word every day to make GOOD decisions.

  5. Terrell says

    February 26, 2015 at 4:05 pm

    Thank you Patricia for standing faithful to our Father and Lord Jesus Christ.
    We know “…. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound: that as sin hath reigned unto death, even so might grace reign through righteousness unto eternal life by Jesus Christ our Lord.” Ro.5:20,21
    Let us desire to “…be as white as snow;…” Isaiah 1:18 clothed in the righteousness of Jesus Christ our Savior and Lord.

    (Alicia forwarded your message)

    • Patricia says

      February 27, 2015 at 1:40 am

      Thank you, Terrell! God Bless you,

  6. Marshelle says

    February 28, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    Great article Patricia! Thank you for speaking out loud! I have the same sentiments. I didn’t read the book and I will not see the movie. I have no interest.

    • Patricia says

      February 28, 2015 at 3:52 pm

      Thank you, Marshelle! God bless,

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