For me, guilt is often an ulterior motive. Back in school, every time the teacher reprimanded the whole class for bad behavior instead of singling someone out, I was sure it was all my fault. Even now, if someone on a work team seems less than thrilled with an outcome, I’m instantly guilty.

My guilt has had a way of guiding me into people-pleasing and letting others take advantage of me for a long time. When pressed, I tend to insist it isn’t guilt, but that I just love helping. As a result, I’m easily beholden, serving with impure motives, deceived by my own heart.

Paul prayed this for believers:

“That your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless” –Ph 1:9-10

“Living as a slave of men” can easily be my pattern. To fight this battle, it helps to be able to recognize my own motives.

Someone wise offered me this mechanism for helping discern my true (ulterior) motives:

If this (___________________________) is my motive, then what if (_________________________) isn’t part of the equation?

Perhaps this little mechanism will help you discern where ulterior motives tend to lead you astray, too. Here’s an example.

Step 1:

If you desire to go on a missions trip but aren’t sure if your motives are pure, think of godly motives to fill in the first blank:

-Setting aside time specifically to serve

-Rendering a service to someone who needs it

-Reflecting Christ while offering a service

Step 2:

For the second half of the mechanism, think of worldly desires that could distort your godly motives:

-Getting to take an exotic trip while looking righteous

-Building up an ego or a reputation for selfish gain

-Feeling like a savior or hero as mission recipients gives you thanks

Step 3:

Using the first examples from the lists, you might ask:

If this (setting aside time to serve others in the name of Jesus) is my motive, then what if (traveling to an exotic place) isn’t part of the equation?

Will you still take time to serve? Will you still see serving others in Jesus’ name as what you need to do with that time? What changes?

Your answers to this kind of question tend to reveal what you’re really motivated by. That’s helpful for gaining “depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best.” (Ph 1:9-10)

If your motives are revealed as impure it may indicate that a particular course of action isn’t God-led. Sometimes though, God wants to purify our motives first but still asks us to do what we were considering after all.

Uncovering wrong motives reveals an opportunity to repent and turn to God to cleanse your heart.
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When our motives are pure, we can be “filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.” (Ph 1:11)

It’s worth uncovering our ulterior motives so that we can rightly praise and glorify God!

{A version of this post was previously published here}

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