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Sign #3 – Your Decisions & Actions Contradict Scriptures {Blog Series: Six Signs You Are Heading in the Wrong Direction}

April 4, 2018 by Patricia

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My late brother-in-law was a quiet man. He was known for being “quick to hear… and slow to speak” (James 1:9). If Donnie was curious about something, he strategically waited to ask the right question at the right time.

Whenever we got together, my husband, sister-in-law and I did most of the talking. Donnie would sit down, quietly, rarely offering insight to what was being discussed. But when he did, everyone would listen. Donnie was usually funny, quick, and right to the point. You did not have to wonder what he really thought.

And that was one of my favorite things about him.

One day we were discussing a situation, and he offered a comment that made me laugh out loud at the time. But since then, I have often repeated the maxim, realizing the deep (and sad) truth behind it:

“God is often blamed for things He never said,” Donnie said, in his matter-of-fact tone.

Since that day, many times have I witnessed people saying or doing things that they believed God told them to do or not to do that I knew, right away, could not have come from God.

Each time it happens, I can’t help but think about what Donnie said.

Now, before you grab a stone to throw my way, let me make myself clear: I do not spend my days criticizing people, judging their beliefs and love for God. But you and I can certainly know, beyond the shadow of a doubt, when certain things that are said or done are not from God.

Why?

Because they absolutely go against Scriptures.

In this blog series, I have been presenting six signs that I believe (from personal experience) that indicate you may be heading outside of God’s will. You can follow the links to read the first two posts on this series: Sign Number One and Sign Number Two.

This third sign seems to be so obvious, and still, Satan uses it all the time against believers. Here it goes:

Sign #3: When your decisions and/or actions contradict Scriptures.

Let’s face it: You and I can be very sneaky sometimes.

We all have tried to deceive ourselves in the past into believing that our sin was acceptable, even God-honoring.  Whether it’s justifying why we cannot forgive someone, honor our parents, get in a love relationship with an unbeliever, put an end to an immoral relationship, you name it – most of us have compromised the truth of the Bible, calling sin a good thing.

There is no question that there are decisions we make and certain subjects concerning God’s will for our lives that are much more subjective. The Bible does not tell me what I should do next in my ministry, or whether I should take that job or not. Answers such as these must be sought out in prayer, and by waiting for the “peace that surpasses all understanding” that we discussed on “Sign Number One” of this series.

But please, let us not fool ourselves or try to fool others into accepting our fleshly claims as God-honoring. People who have walked with Jesus long enough may not say anything, but they can see beyond our masks and hear the message beyond our words.

I don’t have to be a scholar to know that certain things are completely against God and His nature. They are our flesh screaming. When it comes to certain principles of Scripture, It’s either black… or white. Click To Tweet

And at some point in time, we must choose where we stand. It’s best we just own it: We want it our way, rather than attributing our unholy or unwise decisions as instructions from a Holy God.

God will not tell us to stay committed to immorality – adultery and fornication are and will always be sin. (1 Corinthians 6:18)

God will not excuse us from honoring our parents – even when they hurt us in the past. Period. (Exodus 20:12)

God will not pat us in the back, saying: “It’s ok, sweetheart, you really don’t have to forgive them again.” Jesus said seven times seventy. But he really meant indefinitely, just in case you wonder. (Matthew 18:21-22)

God will not excuse ill treatment of our children, justified by the scars of our past. (Colossians 3:21)

As they say it in the South: “It ain’t happening, honey.” (You should really hear it with my Brazilian accent).

In each and every decision we make, we have to keep His Word as “a Lamp onto our feet and a Light onto our path.” That means we cannot take one single step by trampling all over His Word, and still think we can reach our God-given destiny.

Therefore, my friend, if whatever step you feel led to take… or whatever path you are currently taking, stains any clear direction or commandment that God has given us in His Word, my prayer is that you stop right now, and truly repent. Confess your wrong doing, turn around, and follow the Light provided so clearly in His Word. The Light that promises a path that leads you to His very best.

It may hurt… your pride, your heart, and even your pocket. But remember:

Remaining on a road that is not blessed by the Father is spiritual suicide. Click To Tweet

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About Patricia

Patricia Holbrook is the President of Soaring with Him Ministries, author, columnist, blogger, wife and mom. Her passion is to encourage her audience to "soar above life's circumstances" by the power of God's Word and the Holy Spirit's guidance. She writes about making beauty out of brokenness, trusting God in the dark, the blessings of obedience and her love for the Savior. Among other places, you can find her writing weekly on her blog, www.soaringwithHim.com. on her weekend column for the Atlanta Journal Constitution www.ajc.com, on iDisciple and websites such as LifeLetter Cafe, among others. Patricia is also a national and international speaker for women's events and is currently attending Covington Seminary, where she is enrolled in their Master’s program in Bible Studies.

Comments

  1. Bev @ Walking Well With God says

    April 4, 2018 at 5:57 am

    Patricia,
    We are all great at rationalizing our actions, but like you said so clearly….if it doesn’t match up with scripture it just isn’t going to fly. What God gives us in His Word are not suggestions; they are commands. Yes, there is forgiveness, but what God says He intends for us to follow. No excuses. Great post.
    Blessings,
    Bev xx

    • Patricia says

      April 4, 2018 at 9:53 am

      Amen, Bev… it’s so tempting to justify our flesh! But you are so right, God’s Word are not suggestions and we must follow His instructions, hence we miss His best for our lives.

      Always a blessing to have you!

  2. Tiffiney |Welcome Home Ministry says

    April 4, 2018 at 7:27 am

    Moning Patricia, thank you for sharing this insightful post, and for hosting! Habe a blessed day!

    • Patricia says

      April 4, 2018 at 9:54 am

      Thank you for participating, Tiffiney! God bless you and come back every week!

  3. Michele Morin says

    April 4, 2018 at 9:13 am

    I am always mystified when I hear believers justify actions that clearly contradict Scripture. But then, I take a look at my own imperfect expression of Christ’s righteousness and I understand a bit more . . .
    Thanks for this call to live out what we profess to believe.

    • Patricia says

      April 4, 2018 at 9:55 am

      Thank you, Michelle! I always appreciate your insight. I’m grateful for being part of our community!

  4. Susan Kennedy says

    April 4, 2018 at 4:38 pm

    Thank you for this. I love your boldness and your heart.

  5. Lynn says

    April 4, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    Yes, we sure can justify what ‘feels’ right. I’m learning it’s in the obedience that leads to those feelings of peace. God set up boundaries us to bring us peace and joy, not to harm us!

  6. Jennifer says

    April 4, 2018 at 9:11 pm

    Great series Patricia!
    It is always wise to align our thoughts & actions with His Word, as the enemy loves to subtly get in!
    We need to be vigilant!
    Jennifer

  7. Lisa notes says

    April 5, 2018 at 1:07 pm

    Your b-i-l definitely had this right: God is often blamed for things He never said. We can easily bring faulty expectations to God, then blame him when they aren’t met. Thanks for reminding me to stay properly aligned with his words.

  8. Joy says

    April 6, 2018 at 6:36 pm

    Hi Patricia! This is a great series. I love what you said about our tendency to be sneaky. What an honest and needful observation. Thanks for sharing this encouragement and these biblical truths!

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